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maybe when all this is done with and set in stone i can give more concrete examples so yall can be amazed right along with me. Wink Razz"

Hahaha... Well, I am just happy to see the Universe cooperating with your desire nature.

Pax Profunda!

maybe when all this is done with and set in stone i can give more concrete examples so yall can be amazed right along with me.

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"I think things are going well. I did a small ritual, got up my nerve and did what I thought was right. We'll see what happens when the dust settles, but actually things are progressing a lot more easily than I expected or thought possible. "

Excellent. As they say, 'success is thy proof.'

"^Good stuff "

Yes it was...and it would be interesting to hear what the final result was in this magical equation.

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@SophiaLux said

" Does anyone have a way that they go about overcoming deeply-rooted, but essentially unhelpful ideas about what "should" be done in order to take specific action. "

You've certainly gotten some good advice already, but I thought I'd throw in one more thing about unraveling the "shoulds": Ask yourself what it would mean about you as a person if you did the "right" thing, and what it would mean about you as a person if you did the "wrong" thing. Don't censor yourself when answering these questions--let the "automatic" responses come. By doing this, you may expose (and therefore understand, and possibly begin to heal) a deeper level of identity-clinging, shame, fear, and so on.

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David

I know what I have to do. Hopefully today is the day. Wish me luck. (Though I've got Kali and Artemis batting for me so I guess I can't loose ).

"My question is this. Does anyone have a way that they go about overcoming deeply-rooted, but essentially unhelpful ideas about what "should" be done in order to take specific action. Is the "ripping off a bandaid method" the only way to go here (i.e. just take a deep breath, get some balls, and do what I know i need to no matter whether it hurts or feels hinky), or is there some other way to prepare myself (accept) this kind of cognitive dissonance? "

There are many methods and tools for overcoming just about anything, with enough diligence and desire. However, it sounds like you are looking for a 'fast and dirty' method in order to get through this 'vague' situation to which you find yourself.

Personally, the best methods are truth, honesty and integrity. Best to simply address the situation from your place of truth [which in many ways aligns you more or less to your true will] and then with calm endurance and compassion work out whatever is 'blocking' your flow, whether that be through discussion or specific work.

But, always...**'to thine own self be true!'
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I understand the need to be discreet in this sort of things sometimes, though this also may mean that the advice is general, vague, etc.

The key is that you have to be true to yourself - your integrity has to be upheld. With the problem as you've stated it (using the definition of problem of "two forces of comparable magnitude and opposite trajectory"), it seems one of the following has to be true:

(1) This isn't your True Will - and your psyche is screaming to make you realize that. OR,
(2) The acculturated values, training, etc. are false (at least in this situation) and you nee to follow these back to their roots and make a new (identical or changed) conscious choice about your values. OR,
(3) There is a different means to the same end such that (1) and (2) aren't really in conflict with each other.

Understand that "trueness" (used as if it were an archery term, rather than pertaining to veracity) is a matter of end, not means. If I'm reading between the lines correctly, your concern is over means, and, if that's true, then that may be the root of the seeming conflict.

If it's about a relationship, then you have to do what you have to do - i th most compassionate way available to you, but without backing off of it.