The consoler has feelings and i hate him?
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You have to see every word in the context it is applied to.
Pity not the fallen! I never knew them. I am not for them. I console not: I hate the consoled & the consoler.
In this case, the argument isn't against consoling but against pity. Search the forums for "pity vs compassion" to see more. Long discussions, simpler principles, I don't see the need to repeat it all.
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Console means to soothe.
A buddhist monk in training has just gotten malaria. He is receiving medical care, but the fevers and aches rack his body just the same. Another monk visits and says that she suffered through this situation too, and that she believes he will get through it, 100%.
A woman is crying because she just received some sad news, and her husband rushes over to give her a hug and dry her tears. Then he tells her a joke that always cheers her up. She stops crying and feels better.
Which scenario is more self-serving for the comforter? Which is more compassionate? Which embraces the reality of emotions and suffering more freely? Which honors the divinity and strength in each of us more?
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Well, definition granted, but in context, it's the consoler of the fallen, the one who lost.
No. Master!
I don't think it means all forms of comforting those we love. I'll bring her the Advil if she feels that bad. I don't think we're talking about that kind of compassion.
More and more, I think of it in terms of prying oneself free of those who would have you diverted from your Will out of some call for compassion for others. Here, it says, no, don't be slave to this. Do your Will.
Other than that, I really don't see the use of all the contortions around the definition of compassion. Are they trying to use it to divert you from your Will? That.
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Sure, my little stories are a little false-dichotomous. But so is the idea of winners and losers. The lie that we are separate makes us think in those terms, when the wheel of fortune makes losers and winners out of us whenever it happens to be our turn. And further, we aren't the winner or the loser, that's just a perspective. We're the whole thing. We just experience winning or losing at one point in time or another.
Consolation seems to me to be something in service of a lie. It sends a message to me that we shouldn't experience this feeling. Or that we shouldn't be in this situation. Yes, of course, I comfort my daughter when she is hurting. But I try to do it in a way that I'm helping her witness her own experience by witnessing it with her. I'm not against pain medication, but I don't want the default to be to try to avoid a painful experience just for the sake of avoiding pain at all costs, always.
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@Takamba said
"You have to see every word in the context it is applied to.
Pity not the fallen! I never knew them. I am not for them. I console not: I hate the consoled & the consoler.
In this case, the argument isn't against consoling but against pity. Search the forums for "pity vs compassion" to see more. Long discussions, simpler principles, I don't see the need to repeat it all."
To add to this:
Usually, when one is consoling another human being it involves distracting or averting that human being from the issue at hand. There is absolutely no point to consolation of this kind as it would be more fitting to accept the situation as it stands without recourse to blind emotions. In effect: consolation detracts from our ability to see and accept the realities of situations. The same goes for pity. Consolation is applied pity.
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I think I know what you mean. For example an obese person tells you they need to go on a diet and you tell them that they are not fat and there's nothing to worry about. Is this what you mean? I guess you're feeding them (pun unintended) with "fancy ideas about themselves" so pushing them from True Will? Likewise if I was to say that I need to improve my knowledge of physics and you say "yeah YOU, no danger, you'll be a professor of physics one day" then again this is feeding a falseness.