Many thanks to you both for your words of advice. I agree that the path through this seems to be a more active approach to love. AoD, this is all very helpful - you are dead on that relief comes chiefly through the present moment, and also with the earth correspondences/security/mooladhara chakra issues. And Rocky, I shall experiment with the ancestral practices and see where they lead! Denying of my family roots has definitely been an issue for me.