Parenting and Will
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93,
"Slightly conflicting ideas in the two posts but I guess they could be reconciled in some way"
Welcome to the study of Thelema
'Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the Law'
'Every man and ever woman is a star'
Each person has their own course or path, point-of-view if you will and some times they don't agree. That's the beauty of Thelema. No one is nessassarily 'wrong' per se it just may be wrong for another.
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93,
Crowley wrote a short piece On the Education of Children in 1921... Here are some excerpts:
- Each child must develop its own Individuality, and Will, disregarding alien Ideals.
- Nothing is taught except How to think for oneself.
- It is treated as a responsible and independent being, encouraged in self-reliance, and respected for self-assertion.
- Respect its individuality! Submit all life for its inspection, without comment.
- Truth teaches understanding, freedom develops will, experience con fers resourcefulness, independence inspires self-confidence. Thereby success becomes certain.
- Every child is God of its own Universe. Education develops control thereof.
- Let them witness birth, marriage, death; let them hear poetry, philos ophy, history; compel apprehension but not its articulate expression. Make them face cliffs, billows animals, finding their own formula of con quest.
- Let children educate themselves to be themselves. Those who train them to standards cripple and deform them. Alien ideals impose parasitic per versions.
- Education must accustom the mind to meet all eventualities, inter preting, judging, and reacting as its individual necessity demands.
- Evolution demands exceptional individuals, fitter to heir environment than their fellows. Species prosper by imitating efficient eccentrics.
etc. etc. etc.
IAO131
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93 Aum,
"* Nothing is taught except How to think for oneself"
Are we to assume that a child can teach them selves the sciences? calculus? I see where AC is goinig here but the basics need to be taught only in a free and non-bias atmosphere.
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@phoinix93 said
"93 Aum,
"* Nothing is taught except How to think for oneself"
Are we to assume that a child can teach them selves the sciences? calculus? I see where AC is goinig here but the basics need to be taught only in a free and non-bias atmosphere."
No but I think it could be a warning to not force say an overtly artistically inclined child to learn calculus. If the child has some passion for math then calculus will naturally follow.
Sad thing is that I don't think there is an education system in the world that would cater for this. We send our kids to the Montesorri school which does encourage a free learning environment to a degree. I've heard good things about the Rudolf Steiner school or it could have been the Waldorf school. The problem is not so much with the schools available but rather the educational systems at a national level with which they need to comply.
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@phoinix93 said
"93 Aum,
"* Nothing is taught except How to think for oneself"
Are we to assume that a child can teach them selves the sciences? calculus? I see where AC is goinig here but the basics need to be taught only in a free and non-bias atmosphere."
93,
Crowley constantly talks about teaching things to people who show an aptitude for it (this includes, importantly, occultism/ceremonial magick). Although many skills are useful for everyone (basic arithmetic, critical thinking, reading skills) there are many that are only useful for specialists (I learned calculus back in high school and have yet to use it... but it was an interesting mental exercise). I would think Crowley would expose children to all the greats in literature and science and humanities and allow the child to guide their direction...
IAO131
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@Aum418 said
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@phoinix93 said
"93 Aum,"* Nothing is taught except How to think for oneself"
Are we to assume that a child can teach them selves the sciences? calculus? I see where AC is goinig here but the basics need to be taught only in a free and non-bias atmosphere."
93,
Crowley constantly talks about teaching things to people who show an aptitude for it (this includes, importantly, occultism/ceremonial magick). Although many skills are useful for everyone (basic arithmetic, critical thinking, reading skills) there are many that are only useful for specialists (I learned calculus back in high school and have yet to use it... but it was an interesting mental exercise). I would think Crowley would expose children to all the greats in literature and science and humanities and allow the child to guide their direction...
IAO131"
Agreed!
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In Book 4 on page 84 Aliester Crowley says "This capacity for storing away facts is compatible with actual imbecility.This is the great fault of modern education-a child is stuffed with facts, and no attempt is made to explain their connection and bearing. The result is that even the facts themselves are soon forgotten"
Sending ure child to a slave training facility, a sheeple programming center is what the masses do because they are slaves, surely a Thelemite should know better as tons of hidden information in books about how K-12 was designed to dumb down the herd to keep them bewildered ,answering to Bells, smart enuf to do a job but not smart enuf to see how the States is really run, how our shadow govt rules, with lies, brainwashing and indoctrination.
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A child that is homeschooled and reading almost 5 books a week has a better chance of finding their true will and not being a slave.
Surely sending ure child into a slave training facility with the herd to answer to Bells and forced memorization is obviously against what Crowley would have believed
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I sent my children to our local public school. I live in a niche community, and our schools have less then twenty students per grade average, ninety percent of the teachers, staff and administrators live in the community, and almost one hundred percent of the parents were Involved in the PTA and BOE.
Yet, my I saw such a one eighty in my childrens self image, confidence, personal security, and inquiry level in just two years of education, that we decided I would not open my holistic healthcare organization, but take responsibility for the lives that I brought into this world.
I knew that the beautiful, capable, strong, independent spirits I had brought forth, and were taking care of, would be transformed into mere shells, shadows if I kept them in school.
I tried for two years to work with in the system, at the schools, with the teachers as a volunteer and aid to bring about positive changes, for all the students. But it was too much for me alone. And my children were heavily succeeding.
I will fully admit that because of my personalty, my beliefs and world view, my children felt torn. I would read the assignments, for example, that Columbus Discovered America, and would with out batting an eye let my kids know that was wrong, and even if it was in print, or that an adult said it....doesn't mean that it is true and should not be questioned.
Sometimes, for a brief moment, I think I should teach. Give them spelling lists, and geography quizes, make them learn some patriotic songs or do a million times tables.
But, it's only a brief moment, a moment that I slip into the past, or project into the future. When I am present, with my kids and we are exploring our world, living our lives, enjoying each other, I know I am right.
It is my responsibility to myself that I have integrity in all that I do. Sending my kids away from me for hours a day, to memorize things, eat bad food, listen to gossip and need materialistic trappings is not who I am. My children are an extension of me after all, and I know that I despised most everything about the public school system.I have a list of things that I expect my children to do everyday, or to do their best at completing. I expect my children to become healthy adults, by modeling to them positive healthy behaviors myself. My children are required by me to spend an hour outside every day. They need to take care of their bodies and their property, cleaning themselves, their rooms, their toys. I instruct them in Physical education, hopefully soon they will want to do yoga with me. They cook, and have house hold chores that rotate.
I am also the ScoutMaster of the CubScouts, and Junior Girl Scouts so I use that program to bring socialiazation and iimportant ideals and morals to them, ideals such as being honest, having reverence, serving others, being cheerful, having a thrift nature, conservation.... Ideals that I feel are important to lead a happy, healthy successful life.
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@Veronica something happened to me recently and i almost felt like ,just giving up , i cant say what this was but when i read ure entry something about it had me sitting at the computer crying, there are so many people that raised me that were soulless and unloving and ure comment reminded me that there are really still people out there that think like me, and everything is gonna be ok. thank you , a million times over, Thanks.
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@ACwroteAzoetiaAt19 said
"@Veronica something happened to me recently and i almost felt like ,just giving up , i cant say what this was but when i read ure entry something about it had me sitting at the computer crying, there are so many people that raised me that were soulless and unloving and ure comment reminded me that there are really still people out there that think like me, and everything is gonna be ok. thank you , a million times over, Thanks."
You are very welcome, I am glad it resonated with you, and I hope your darkness has passed.
Do you know the song about Three Little Birds?
Every things gonna be alright... -
Thelema and raising kids? When I start a family, I would put them in the same sorts of inner city public schools I went to so that they can hang out with the neighborhood kids. They will basically go there to play hopscotch and join a clique. If they don't get along, we'll try different settings and maybe get a 'homeschooling certificate' so my mom can watch them from a distance while they run loose. My kids will go to an Asian 'Saturday school' to learn actual academics, since our school quality is abysmal. I'm going to be the cool mom who doesn't have rules or curfews, and encourages kids to play Ouija at sleepovers.
The purpose of parents is to act as a favorable interface between children, who are deprived of legal rights, and the adult world that judges them. Parents need to advocate for their kids before the law, teach them how not to get beat up, how to deconstruct the kyriarchy, and how to Take Care of Business in an often-hostile world. Parents must be willing to march down to the school and push the staff around a bit if there's any nonsense going on (like having to put one's bag through a scanner, cell phone and metal objects bans, being locked down between classes, staff hassling kids for carrying a Swiss army knife etc). Parents need to advocate against youth curfews, truancy officers etc, and bail the kid out of jail if necessary. Even social stuff, like getting into 21+ clubs when they're in HS. Otherwise, the kids are on their own. They do what they please except for disrespecting adults. They have to take responsibility if they're victimized by anyone, with the knowledge that parents will be on their side, with a good lawyer, when they beat up the bully. Similarly, they have to take responsibility if they're caught e.g. drinking outside the home when the 'world' considers them 'underage'. The material rights are access to a stipend, home office of whatever nature, legal defense, online bank account, eventual initiation sponsorship, and vehicle if applicable. A larger stipend will be given after they've proven capable of a full-time job. The responsibilities involve support, as much as practicable, of the extended family in the future. Not myself, but the ragtag low-income individuals that will invariably be connected to the child. My family, BF's family, nutty neighbors, etc. -
Will and Love. I have had this in my brain for along time. I always assume a respect for my children's will. And train them accordingly. Ask.questions that direct from both? If I see or detect selfish will, something not moving outward for the good of everybody they are in direct contact with, I ask.questions about that love that should have been there. Coaching along those lines get children that respect and love you. They will talk to you, when they become teenagers, if they don't feel that, they don't understand mentality. Because they know I will try to understand their will for.doing things, the intent for the.action versus the social morality of it.