I think you are repressing Lacan's object a. Object a is "a void presupposed by a demand." This is your jealousy. Object a is connected with semblance and representation.
There is no discourse that is not a semblance, there is no Other of the Other, there is no such thing as a sexual relationship.
The discourse that might not be a semblance is "There is no discourse that is not a semblance."
The sexual relationship doesn't stop not being written. This is your repression.
Given the whole and the not-whole, the universe is the place in which, due to the fact of speaking, everything succeeds- that is, succeeds in making the sexual relationship fail in the male manner.
From the ladies' side, it is on the basis of the elaboration of the not-whole that one must break new ground. Were there another jouissance than phallic jouissance (feminine jouissance), it shouldn't be/could never fail to be that one. This jouissance speaks, and the first effect of speaking is that is speaks of something else. It makes you capable of serving some purpose, since you don't know how to enjoy otherwise than to be enjoyed or duped, because it is the jouissance that shouldn't be/could never fail.
There is no such thing as a sexual relationship and there is no Other of the Other.
The Real cannot be written. There is no discourse that is not a semblance. The Real is impossible. The Real of jouissance is impossible.
Of interest may be Lacan's four discourses, notably hysteria and the master's discourse: www.google.com/search?q=lacan+hysteria+matheme&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiyxOCF6_LdAhVCx1kKHcAaBf8Q_AUIDygC&biw=1920&bih=969#imgrc=fVX9shFLe8nrZM: