It helps me to put things in my own words sometimes, if only to solidify my understanding and, perhaps, making your effort a little more rewarding by demonstrating that I get it.
@Jim Eshelman said
"First of all, don't resist or deny the (). That's not the same as embracing its antithesis. If life is inherently joyful, and atop that we layer ugly reactions, and then on top of that we affirm that it's joyful, we're just making things worse, because we have two layers of lie to get past. I call this construct a Shit Sandwich, two slices of joy with a shitburger in the middle. Not recommended. Instead, own the (), start telling the truth about the things you feel that way about, and get through to the joy."
The main message I am getting here is that we must own our responses to life. There are things we can control, things we can influence with failure or success, and things beyond our control. Ugly reactions are a signal and source of resistance for, in certain ways, life just happens to us. If existence is pure joy, why should we resist anything that is truly beyond our control? While these things stand, they should simply be accepted as part of the existence of our unfolding lives. By taking responsibility over how we respond to each moment, we are that much closer to extending the ecstasy and bliss that is at the heart of life.
Also, thank you for adding your signature humor for color, haha. Very enjoyable. ð
@Jim Eshelman said
"I think it's just about the truth of what's so, actually and emotionally."
By actually and emotionally, that is almost to say reality and how we respond to it.
@Jim Eshelman said
"Ah, there, I think, is the error: Not joyful participation in sorrow. Rather, joyful participation in the things that cause sorrow. (By telling the truth about it, not by denying the sorrow.)"
This ties back to the Shit Sandwich point above, haha. It's the difference between trying to force yourself to enjoy sorrow and ending the sorrow by accepting its cause as a part of reality.
How do you show someone you love them? I say you do so by simply enjoying their presence, meeting them with the same affection and thoughtful attention that you would afford yourself. Same with life. Life sucks sometimes. It can be a bitch. For some of us, maybe it's always that way. But, if you can accept it and meet life with grace where others might falter, then who is the better lover? ð¿
Ah, but life is always the best lover for life always accepts us; it is other people who tend to be the problem.
As of yet, I am still realizing that I have but one Companion, even that one Companion is what I do have.
As always, thank you so much for coming to my aid, Jim. You are a true treasure.